Creating Balance After Being Triggered

October 5, 2016|Chani Mehlman

Managing your emotions is very important to your emotional well-being. When you manage your emotions, it creates a feeling of balance and stability. People are always trying to figure out how to accomplish this, and often feel that they can't.

The reason you don’t have the life balance you so badly want is likely because you feel stuck. When you’re stuck, the frustration can be so overwhelming!

You can get out of feeling stuck. I have worked with lots of people, and seen TREMENDOUS transformations! You can achieve the emotional balance you deeply desire too.

Here are some tools to help you work through your emotions and get balanced after being triggered!

1. Notice your emotions and reactions, and try to understand them.

When working with clients who are practicing this tool, I ask them to make a log for the next week.  A log gives you a place where you can write down your thoughts, how you felt, and the way you reacted to a specific situation. It can be any situation you found yourself caught in.  Often people make a mistake when writing how they feel, instead they write what they think. For example, saying, "I feel that the teacher is a horrible person" is not verbalizing the emotion felt by the student. The student could have felt overwhelmed by the teacher's fast teaching style, and was scared she wouldn't pass. Feeling scared and overwhelmed are both emotions, what type of person the teacher is is what they think. .

After making a log for the week, look it over and assess how you did! Was there any change? How did it feel? What will you focus on the next week to continue building this skill?

2. Learning how to figure out the root of your sadness, frustration, and your anger is very helpful, and will give you an understanding of yourself. Understanding yourself is important, but it doesn't create change. However, it is a positive step and paves the path for a better you!

3. STiR stands for STOP. THINK. RESPOND. When we get "stirred" up this helps in the moment.

    a. Stop yourself from retorting a response you may regret.

    b. Think and ask yourself How do I feel? How do I want to respond? How should I        respond?

    c. Respond in a way that will be most beneficial to you. You benefit by feeling growth,        maturity, and even a boost in self-esteem!

You cannot control the way you think or feel, but you can choose how to respond! This is the key to a balanced life.

4. Take care of yourself physically – focus on eating and sleeping well, and exercise to relieve tension.

5. Take time to enjoy life! Appreciation helps you embrace the beautiful daily gift of life!

(It’s ALWAYS okay to make time for yourself!)

I have been helping woman in demanding careers learn how to find the life balance they deeply desire on discovery calls.

I would love to hear from you- schedule your call below =)

 love,

Chani =)